JotCast | Tuesday 1in6 Online Support Group

Tuesday 1in6 Online Support Group

Kate Logan, Facilitator

3:38

Welcome to the Tuesday program of 1in6, Inc.’s Online Support Group (OSG) for men who have experienced childhood sexual abuse and/or sexual assault as adults. Today’s opener is from Cynthia Occelli: “For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.” ~ We will start at the top of the hour!

3:39

Ground Rules for the Online Support Group (OSG):
• Participants must be at least 18 years of age, be male-identified and have had an unwanted sexual experience (i.e., childhood sexual abuse and/or adult sexual assault). Anyone who does not meet these criteria will be asked to leave immediately.
• We encourage participants to seek therapy from licenced clinicians. Please note that OSG does not replace or substitute psychological or mental health services.
• As participants, we agree to start on time. Although we close the doors after 30 minutes, we encourage all participants to start at the top of hour as late participants can be disruptive.
• We commit to stay for the full session – i.e., we expect participants to stay for the 90-minutes.
• We commit to confidentiality. “Who we see here, what we hear here, let it stay here.”
• We refrain from advice-giving or asking for advice from other participants.

• We refrain from asking direct questions to others. Instead, we focus on our own experiences using “I” statements.
• Please participate! Sessions are only productive if members share and talk with one another.
• We have the right to pass. That said, we expect everyone to participate in the opening and closing round (i.e., check in and check out).
• We expect that fellow participants and staff will be treated with respect. Abusive language will not be tolerated and those who violate this rule will be ejected for that session.
• Please refrain from sharing unnecessarily graphic language as it may be triggering for others.
• We will be sober for the session.
• No personally identifying information is to be shared with other participants. This includes names, emails, phone numbers, etc.
• We may edit your comments via a private message (PM) to you, or delete if not appropriate if they are in violation of any of the above ground rules.

3:52

Welcome! We will be starting in around 8 minutes...

4:00

Welcome everyone!

Cisco

4:00

Hello

Jaime

4:00

Greetings

Gerard

4:00

Hello

Kate Logan, Facilitator

4:00

Great to see you all!

Clyde

4:00

Hello all

Randy

4:00

Hi all

Kate Logan, Facilitator

4:01

Cisco, is this your first time here by chance?

Great to see you checking out the service again, Clyde and Gerard!

Cisco

4:01

This is my second time. I was here yesterday, but unfortunately, I got logged off with like 20 minutes left in the group session.

Gerard

4:01

thanks Kate

Kate Logan, Facilitator

4:02

Welcome to some familiar faces too, Jaime and Randy!

Cisco

4:02

I am pretty new to the whole therapy sessions. I’m currently taking therapy every Wednesday.

Kate Logan, Facilitator

4:02

Thanks for clarifying, Cisco! Glad you are checking out the service again for a second time!

Jaime

4:02

Hi Kate!

Kate Logan, Facilitator

4:03

Cisco, this is a safe space with a very supportive group of guys. We are glad you found us!

Well, why don't we get started then...

To start, let’s have everyone “check in”. Write a brief sentence on how you are feeling right now. Once we hear from the first volunteer, we can then have everybody check in. Focus on your feelings more than thoughts. Avoid words like “good” or “okay’ or “crappy” – they don’t really convey your emotions. Can someone get this going? If you feel stuck, try to focus on one of these feeling states: mad, sad, glad, or anxious.

Jaime

4:04

calm, joyful, content

Randy

4:04

Anxious

Clyde

4:04

Tense, avoidant.

Cisco

4:04

Anxious but optimistic

Kate Logan, Facilitator

4:05

Thanks all! Gerard, how are you feeling (e.g. glad, sad, mad, anxious, calm, etc.)?

Gerard

4:05

good, but was triggered earlier, by a book on this same topic, was angry, concerned, eager to come here

Kate Logan, Facilitator

4:05

Thank you, Gerard!

4:06

So, let's continue then...

So, the next step of the session is "unfinished business" or UB for short. This is a time to share the stuff that has been in our heads or hearts since last week (or in the last stretch, if you weren't in group last week). It is also a good time to expand on your check in, particularly if you are carrying some difficult emotions today. It’s a fairly unstructured time of discussion, and we can take on a couple of threads at the same time.
Could someone to lead us off?

4:07

Welcome, I believe someone new just joined us...

Gerard

4:07

I met someone that I really like. I'm trying to just enjoy exploring her as a person vs. assuming it will never work with my past

Jaime

4:08

that's great, Gerard

Gerard

4:08

@Jaime thanks

Clyde

4:09

I took time away from processing addressing trauma to focus on life and relationship maintenance, but the traumatic stuff is creeping back in and can't continue to be ignored. Also, realizing how difficult personal questions from strangers/acquaintances are for me after intense grooming.

Gerard

4:09

It's so easy to think of 15 reasons why it would never work

4:10

thanks for sharing @ Clyde

Jaime

4:11

Clyde, I have trouble with, "Hi, how are you?" If it were up to me, How are you? would be banned from society.

Gerard

4:12

@Jaime :-)

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